We love because He first loved us
Introduction
In today’s world, many women are being pulled away from their God-given identity, striving to become more like men in the name of strength and independence. Yet, despite these efforts, many still feel a deep void—a lingering emptiness that no career, relationship, or achievement can fill. Only God can truly satisfy the longing in our hearts.
As a Christian woman, I believe we have lost sight of our true place in this world. By conforming to the world’s standards, we risk losing the beauty of our femininity and the unique identity God has lovingly designed for us.
That’s why staying encouraged in our faith is not just helpful—it’s essential. Whether you're a young woman just beginning your walk with Christ or a seasoned believer navigating the challenges of life, you need practical strategies that uplift your spirit and strengthen your relationship with God.
In this blog post, I want to share seven powerful tips that will inspire, renew, and guide you on your spiritual journey. These tips will help you rediscover your purpose, embrace biblical womanhood, and deepen your walk with the Lord.
Let’s dive in and explore how to stay encouraged and rooted in the truth of who God created you to be.
Tip #2 - Ego Death
You're not that smart
We aren’t strong enough to overcome everything on our own—and deep down, we know it. That’s why surrender is so powerful. When we die to self, we make room for God to move. Ego has to die so faith can rise. The chains break when we trust His strength over ours.
To truly walk with God, we have to release our grip on what we think makes sense. God is not of this world—He’s not bound by our logic, our time, or our rules. If we try to understand Him through a worldly lens, we will miss Him completely.
Isaiah 55:8-9 says,
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
Research shows that when people surrender control and trust in a higher power, they feel less stressed and more at peace (Gall et al., 2009). Brain studies also show that during deep prayer or meditation, the part of the brain connected to ego and self-focus quiets down, making people feel more connected to something greater than themselves (Carhart-Harris et al., 2014). This supports the idea that our ego has to step aside so faith can grow. Trusting in God has also been shown to lower anxiety and help people find hope during hard times (Pargament, 1997)
Tip #3 The holy Trinity
Jesus knows your struggle
God sent Himself in the form of Jesus to walk among us—not only to redeem us, but to relate to us. Jesus experienced every form of temptation, emotion, and human limitation, yet remained sinless. This allows Him to fully understand and empathize with our struggles. Hebrews 4:15 reminds us, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin.”
Knowing that Jesus understands us on a human level affirms our worth and dignity. As daughters of God, we are not only known—we are fully seen and loved.
The Bible teaches us how to steward our minds, and neuroscience is beginning to reveal why. Whatever we dwell on mentally becomes stronger—thoughts repeated often enough actually change the brain through neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity is your brain’s ability to change and adapt based on your experiences, thoughts, habits, and even what you believe.That’s why Scripture tells us to "take every thought captive to make it obedient to Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5). Jesus died not only to free our souls, but also to empower us with authority over our thoughts.This is what makes renewing your mind in Christ (Romans 12:2) so powerful—not only spiritually, but scientifically too. It means your past doesn’t have to define you, and your brain can be reshaped by truth, faith, and intentional thought guided by God’s Word.
The enemy cannot create anything new—he only perverts what God has made. Because of that, the battlefield is in our minds. Thoughts that are not from God must be examined and cast down. When we ask, “Is this thought rooted in Christ or has it been twisted?”, we allow the Holy Spirit to guide us in truth. God has given us spiritual tools to win the war within, and science affirms that how we think literally shapes our reality.
God designed our bodies and minds with incredible intentionality—including the systems that help us choose what is right, even when it’s hard. One of the most important areas of the brain that plays a role in this process is the mid-cingulate cortex. This part of the brain is deeply involved in emotional regulation, self-control, and the ability to persist through discomfort to do what we know is right.
Here’s the amazing part: when we resist doing something harmful—something that we may want to do in the moment but shouldn’t—the brain actually rewards us. That’s because God hardwired us to receive a sense of peace, clarity, and even mental reward when we act in alignment with truth and long-term well-being. It’s a beautiful picture of how spiritual obedience and biological design go hand in hand.
Take sexual intercourse as an example. God created it to be powerful and sacred, meant for the context of marriage. When it’s used outside of that covenant, it can lead to emotional distress, attachment issues, and spiritual confusion. Yet, many continue doing it because it feels good in the moment. But when someone chooses to withhold and honor God’s timing, the result is often a sense of mental clarity, emotional strength, and spiritual growth. The brain supports this choice too—the mid-cingulate cortex strengthens our ability to delay gratification, which leads to long-term peace.
The same applies to smaller habits, like biting your nails. It might be comforting or automatic, but it opens your body up to infections and diseases. You know it’s bad, but the brain has gotten used to the short-term relief it brings. When you finally stop, you’re rewarded not only with healthy nails but with an improved sense of control and self-discipline. That’s the mid-cingulate cortex doing its job—and it’s proof that God cares not just about your soul but also your body and mind.Becoming a woman of God isn’t just about behavior—it’s about transformation from the inside out. And through both faith and neuroscience, we see how God has fully equipped us to walk in freedom, wholeness, and divine purpose. He’s given us everything we need to become the woman He created us to be—we just have to trust Him, train our minds, and take the first step.